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Meet the “New” Visions Anew!

Watch an interview with Candy Sugarman, Executive Director of Visions Anew Institute

As I recently celebrated my third anniversary as the Executive Director of Visions Anew Institute, I took the time to reflect on and answer some questions about the changes we have made since my tenure began.

We have made some significant changes to the administrative side of Visions Anew Institute, so changes around HOW we do what we do, not WHY we do what we do.

The WHY has not changed.

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Be Smart, Not Sorry – Are you Lost in Your Story?


JoAnne Donner, MS, CDFA, CDC, CDPC

Donner Mediation and Coaching, LLC

Divorce is about the business of making financial and family decisions. It is also about emotions: stabbing insecurities that sneak up in the middle of the night, recurring regrets that haunt you during the day and, for many, crushing anguish and anger that deflate your spirit.

Many people relieve this emotional onslaught by repeatedly telling the story of their troubled marriage to whoever will listen. Let’s face it: fifty percent of us have been through the turmoil of divorce and know firsthand that talking to someone can be comforting. The red flags, however, are not being selective in who you talk to and how often you repeat the same marital details. It is also a point of concern if, rather than making a decision about your future, you, instead, tell the same tired story year in and year out to friends, family, neighbors, and divorce professionals. As a divorce coach, I have met with clients who tell me they have been sharing the story of their deep unhappiness and resentment for years and, sometimes, decades.

But what is so bad about “just talking?” How is it self-defeating? If you are in the midst of divorce proceedings, getting lost in endless conversation about the dramatic details of your marital discord robs you of the energy and focus you need to make wise decisions – decisions that can create security for yourself and your children. If you are weighing the pros and cons of seeking divorce, it emphasizes the nagging frustrations and disappointments rather than the practical information you need to make an informed decision about your future.

There are also other landmines in “getting lost in your story.” Randomly revealing pertinent details about your troubled marriage, such as sexual or financial infidelity or issues with addiction and/or abuse, may unexpectedly backfire, shifting you

from a position of strength to one of weakness. This includes conversations with people who are not highly-trusted confidantes as well as to careless posts on social media.

Getting lost in your story is also counterproductive when dealing with divorce professionals. Visions Anew Institute, an Atlanta-based non-profit that supports individuals going through divorce, stresses the team approach to dealing with divorce, pointing to the importance of legal and financial experts, as well as the contributions of therapists and coaches. Telling your story to a therapist and/or a divorce coach makes sense; sharing the drama of your situation repeatedly with a lawyer or a CPA is expensive and unproductive. It drains your coffers and cuts into valuable time that could and should be spent on legal and financial details and a strategy for creating a successful outcome and secure future.

If you are going through a divorce or contemplating one, choose your listeners wisely and self-monitor the content and repetitive nature of your conversation. Your goal should be to bolster, not drain, your ability to focus on the pragmatic, business decisions that can determine your future. Getting lost in your story is easy to do; the smart thing, however, is to step back and determine if you are stuck on that dead-end path. If so, reach out and create a team that supports you – the professionals you need to understand the legal and financial aspects of your situation and therapeutic and coaching assistance to help you shift from emotional overwhelm to emotional balance. It’s in your power to stop the chatter and begin building a satisfying and fulfilling future.

This article is the first in the Be Smart, Not Sorry series about successfully dealing with divorce. Be Smart, Not Sorry articles are available at www.mediationandcoachingllc.com. Please feel free to direct comments and/or questions to JoAnne Donner at 770-842-9400 or at jdonner@donner.com.

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International Child-Centered Divorce Month in January Features Complimentary Gifts and Resources for Parents

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT

January is International Child-Centered Divorce Month. The entire month is dedicated to helping parents minimize the negative effects of divorce on children – by giving them the tools and resources they need to support their kids during and long after a divorce.

Throughout January divorce attorneys, mediators, therapists, financial planners, coaches, parenting experts and other professionals around the world will be providing complimentary gifts offering advice and insights to help parents best cope with divorce and parenting issues.

More divorces are initiated in January, following the holiday season, than in any other month. That’s why the Child-Centered Divorce Network chose January to commemorate ICCD Month every year. The goal is to educate parents about how to prevent negative consequences for children during and after separation or divorce.

At the special website, parents can access free ebooks, coaching services, videos, audio programs and other valuable gifts by simply clicking links. The website will be available throughout January at: www.divorcedparentsupport.com/ebook. After entering their email address, parents will receive an ebook on Post-Divorce Parenting along with access to all the other gifts and activities from divorce experts.

Parents will also find listings of free workshops, teleseminars, webinars and other special events being held during January on the Events Calendar at the same website.

It’s important that divorce professionals around the world are joining together to bring a heightened awareness to parents about their responsibility to their children’s well-being before, during and after divorce. The purpose is education and mistake prevention. We want to encourage respectful co-parenting, discuss the painful consequences of parental alienation, teach effective communication skills, and guide parents away from high conflict divorces.

Parental decisions about divorce can affect and scar children for years – and often for a lifetime. As Founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network, I want to tell divorcing parents: Regardless of your own emotional state, it is essential to put your children’s needs first when making decisions related to divorce or separation!

Of course, that’s easier said than done. That’s why the Child-Centered Divorce Network provides valuable resources to help parents throughout the year. They can access a complimentary ebook, a weekly newsletter, blog articles, an Expert Interview series, co-parenting coaching services and expert video interviews on the Divorce View Talk Show (www.divorceview.com).

The more aware parents are, the more quickly they can address challenges that come along regarding their children’s behavior, getting along with their co-parent, adapting to single life and transitioning into a brighter future. We remind parents they are not alone and encourage them to reach out for help, support and useful resources to minimize stress and maximize success.

For more information about International Child-Centered Divorce Month plus access to all the free gifts and special events taking place in January visit: www.divorcedparentsupport.com/ebook.

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Candy’s Corner – August 2015

Candy’s Corner – from the desk of the Visions Anew Executive Director

“Thank you, Candy.
I can’t tell you what a tremendous resource I think your organization is offering to the world.  Like probably most people who come to you,  I never expected to want or need the kind of info you offer, and so I have been completely in the dark and mostly on my own in terms of figuring things out, much less hatching a strategy.  Now I feel so much more equipped….which doesn’t help the part about not wanting to be “here” but does help face the reality of “here” with more confidence and feeling more equipped.”
July Divorce 101 Seminar Attendee

If anyone ever wonders why I feel that my job is more of a calling than just a job, it’s because I get e-mails with messages like this one.

Anyone who has any connection with Visions Anew can feel really good about being on a team that has such an impact on people who are facing something they don’t want to, but must face. Continue reading “Candy’s Corner – August 2015” »

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Candy’s Corner – May 2015

Candy’s Corner – from the desk of the Visions Anew Executive Director

“I crawled in, and danced out.”
Retreat Graduate

Announcing the Visions Anew “Visionary” Program

Do you know a family undergoing a divorce? Of course you do, and unfortunately you’re probably aware of several. Divorce has a tremendous impact on the lives of each family member, taking a toll on relationships, finances, and health for years to come. Families require education and support, but options are limited, often addressing only a small piece of this major, life altering event. Visions Anew can help, and so can you.

Are you a divorce profession?

As a divorce professional you know that divorce is both a business transaction and an emotional event. You also know that the best possible outcomes come from a client who is prepared to deal with the business side, without focusing on the emotional side. Educated and emotionally supported individuals are better equipped to make decisions based on facts rather than feelings. Visions Anew can help, and so can you.

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Please Donate Silent Auction Items for Our March 29 Fundraiser

Our first 2015 fundraising event will be on March 29 at Altobeli’s in Johns Creek. In addition to dinner and music, the event will feature a silent auction. Some terrific items have already been donated, but we need more make the auction an overwhelming success.

Do you have auction items to donate, or know of an individual or business willing to donate a product or service? Here are some suggestions: Continue reading “Please Donate Silent Auction Items for Our March 29 Fundraiser” »

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Candy’s Corner – February 2015

Candy’s Corner – from the desk of the Visions Anew Executive Director

“I hope someday to give others the strength and hope that you’ve given me.”
Retreat Graduate

Our first 2015 Visions Anew fundraising dinner – March 29 at Altobeli’s in Johns Creek

Visions Anew will host a fundraising event on Sunday, March 29, 2015 at Altobeli’s restaurant in Johns Creek. The event will feature hors d’oeuvres, cash bar, dinner, and music, plus a silent auction. Tickets are $100 per person (tax deductible), and proceeds will help Visions Anew continue to offer education, support, and hope to those going through the divorce process. There are only a limited number of reservations available, so purchase your tickets today! Continue reading “Candy’s Corner – February 2015” »