Women's Blog Entries

A Worried Mom

Question:
Dear VAI,

My husband of 24 years and I have made the painfully mutual decision to divorce. Our biggest concern is our boys ages 21, 15, and 13. How do we tell them and how do we do the right thing for them after the announcement?

Worried Mom

Answer:
Dear Mom,

You are prudent to realize that this situation … Read more →

Escaping Abuse

Question:

Dear VAI,

I have been in an abusive marriage to a physician for 15 years. I have only been actually hit three or four times and he is always remorseful. I’ve stayed married for the kids, but now my son is treating me more and more disrespectfully – like his Dad. I must break this pattern and divorce. The … Read more →

Too Many Choices

Question:

Dear VAI,

After 6 months of marriage counseling my husband says he still wants a divorce. We’ve been married 25 years and the kids are grown, but I haven’t earned a paycheck in all that time. I hear all kinds of horror stories about bitter divorces and then I’ve heard about some pretty civil ones. How do I keep … Read more →

Men's Blog Entries

Down and Downer

Question:

Dear VAI,

My wife told me just two weeks ago that she wants a divorce. I had no idea she was unhappy – we’ve been married 27 years – but she says she has made up her mind. I’m so down that I can’t even concentrate at my job. Am I depressed? What does that mean? What’s going on … Read more →

Not a Loser

Dear VAI,
For most of the 30 years I have been married I have made a very good living. I’ve become an entrepreneur in the last few years after I was downsized, and building a business has been tough. Now my wife is the breadwinner; she doles the money out by the spoonful, and calls me a “Loser.” I can … Read more →

Mediation Confusion

Question:
Dear VAI

My wife and I will be divorcing. Several of my friends are suggesting that we consider mediation before hiring divorce attorneys. That sounds less expensive but would I be foolish to do it this way?

Confused

Answer:
Confused, I understand your concern about skipping to mediation prior to retaining an attorney. Though it might be much less … Read more →